Welcome to Death CafeAt Death Cafes people drink tea, eat cake and discuss death. Our aim is to increase awareness of death to help people make the most of their (finite) lives.
On Wednesday November 6th I'll be facilitating Portobello Road's first Death Cafe.
The connection between this late autumn and death is long established for both our Christian and pre-Christian Ancestors. During the Christian All Soul's Day the names of the remembered dead are solemnly read out, a tense and moving ritual, and Pagans celebrate Samhain for 3 days at the end of October and beginning of November. This year as every other year, late autumn heralds the cold and damp that will kill the vulnerable, whether that's garden birds, homeless people, stray animals, the elderly, poor and unwell.
The fear and fascination of death creates religion and often brings people to counselling, sometimes by direct cause of bereavement or a grave diagnosis and often because of another shocking loss, like a redundancy or divorce, which brutally rubs a persons nose in how fragile we are. The existential fear of not-being rocks us as children, makes our adolescence darkly enchanting, is largely ignored during our 20's, 30's and 40's and then re-establishes as we reach our 50's. Illness brings it all forward.
As a society we're pretty unique in ignoring our Ancestors, in every other place and time the Beloved Dead have been acknowledged as a source of wisdom and order. If we lose contact with our lineage we lose connection with who we actually are.
Take a look at the Death Cafe website and consider coming along, or visiting one closer to you. Bring photo's of your Beloved Dead and your less-Beloved Dead. Bring your memories and questions, thoughts and experiences and share them with people in your community who are ready to face up to our last great adventure.