"A person isn't who they are during the last conversation you had with them - they're who they've been throughout your whole relationship."
Rainer Maria Rilke
Every partnership goes through periods of boredom, irritation, distress, dislike and sometimes hatred. The comprehensive and excellent Relate pages explore relationship problems in depth.
My way of working is collaborative, aiming to facilitate partners to put the relationship first, beyond individual preferences. Individual needs are taken seriously, hurt and frustration explored safely and sensitively. It very quickly becomes apparent where power imbalances may lie, how control functions in the relationship and how committed to a healthy partnership each person is. Once aware of these issues, of longstanding patterns as individuals and as a couple, it very often becomes possible to work together to rebuild a sustainable, happy, loving relationship.
Not every partnership lasts forever. Where breakdown has become unavoidable it’s possible to dissolve it in a civilised manner. Speaking clearly, kindly and respectfully to each other in counselling minimises anger and helps to develop more constructive ways of communicating, which is particularly important when children are involved.
Rainer Maria Rilke
Every partnership goes through periods of boredom, irritation, distress, dislike and sometimes hatred. The comprehensive and excellent Relate pages explore relationship problems in depth.
My way of working is collaborative, aiming to facilitate partners to put the relationship first, beyond individual preferences. Individual needs are taken seriously, hurt and frustration explored safely and sensitively. It very quickly becomes apparent where power imbalances may lie, how control functions in the relationship and how committed to a healthy partnership each person is. Once aware of these issues, of longstanding patterns as individuals and as a couple, it very often becomes possible to work together to rebuild a sustainable, happy, loving relationship.
Not every partnership lasts forever. Where breakdown has become unavoidable it’s possible to dissolve it in a civilised manner. Speaking clearly, kindly and respectfully to each other in counselling minimises anger and helps to develop more constructive ways of communicating, which is particularly important when children are involved.